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General summary: (for more detailed description of the purpose of this website, please read the entire article)

1) This is a NON-COMMERCIAL website.
2) This is a CRITICISM website protected by the 1st Amendment of the United States.
3) This website was created in “good faith”, without intent to cybersquat or make profit in any shape or form.
4) We are not affiliated with Ross Jeffries (TM), his partners, affiliates, his image, likeness, business, products or any other attribute in light of his existence.
5) This website was created to express opinions about Ross Jeffries (TM).

Detailed:

This blog is about integrity and exposing hypocrisy. It’s about making informed decisions through common sense, logic, critical thinking and honest observation of others.

Namely, this blog is about exposing the hypocrisy, abuse, egomania and misanthropic behavior demonstrated by Ross Jeffries, AKA Paul Ross, founder of Speed Seduction (R).

Ever since he adopted his self-proclaimed title as “Father of the Seduction Community” several years ago, Ross has spiraled downward into deranged, delusional, and potentially dangerous egomaniacal behavior, much to the dismay of current and former business partners, students, competitors and even friends. 

And the evidence of this is highly public, available all over internet forum sites, groups and other sites for discussion.

It is because of concern for fellow human beings who may show an interest in his materials that this blog has been created. It is our intent to inform you, through articles, forums, communications and personal contacts, of the hateful behavior spewed forth by this influential individual, not only upon his competitors, but on his very own students, clients, and the people who support him.

Unfit to Teach or Coach Others

Whatever influence he may retain within the self-improvement circle, I contend Mr. Jeffries is not fit, nor deserving to be a teacher of the technology he markets, nor of any method that teaches men or women how to live happier, more fulfilling lives in any regard. He has no place as a coach within any self-improvement circle in light of repeated failure to live by his own standards.

 He has often demonstrated the exact opposite of what he preaches to others, clear contempt for anyone or anything that doesn’t fit within his narrow model of communicating with others, and has a seeming unending reservoir of name-calling diatribes aimed at anyone who disagrees with him in the slightest (numerous examples to be provided as proof of this behavior, not as just hearsay)… or worse.

This is a small list of grievances expressed by many former students of RJ and Speed Seduction (R).

 Mr. Jeffries teaches something called Speed Seduction (R) – a highly marketed technology he claims can help you “score” with the women you desire using NLP and other so-called technologies.

Whether this technology works is scarcely the point of this website. In fact, discussion as to whether his teachings are effective will be frowned upon.

This website is about educating the hopeful seeker so they make a more informed decision when dealing with this person.

What this blog will NOT be:

1)  Commercialized
2) A feeding ground for insults, flames or ad hominems
3) Discussion of Paul Ross’s products or their effectiveness or non-effectiveness
4) A “hate” site

What this blog WILL be:

1) A CIVIL discussion hub
2) An attempt at educating people about Ross Jeffries, his influence and subsequent damaging imprint on the lives of others.
3) An OPINION site that aims to be fair and balanced, even in light of guaranteed attacks from Ross himself when he discovers it online.
4) Providing numerous examples of Ross’s atrocious, abusive behaviors.

If you wish to participate on this site, there are certain rules to abide by. Most of them are common sense.

1) Absolutely no flaming or name-calling of any other participants is permitted. All discussion, shared experiences and true life stories will be shared with a civil, thoughtful tone. Blatant or implicitly insulting posts will NOT be published here.

2) No commercial posting of any kind. We are not an advertising site. We will not endorse any else’s products.

3) This site is for exposition purposes only. While it is clearly set on exposing Ross’s anti-social behavior and hypocritical teachings, contrary opinions will be allowed and encouraged. We are not Nazis here. If your experience with Ross has been a positive one, feel free to post it here.

There may be other rules not stated here, but implied. Check back for updates.

44 thoughts on “About”

  1. Ross helped me get abundance in my sex/love life. I am speaking about some high quality experiences with some great ladies. They were happy and I was happy (I don’t have videos, sorry :). It took a lot of hard work and commitment however and I am betting those “I tried RJ’s stuff for some time” kind of guys just didn’t have the drive and the will power to achieve the results. Face it boys. Or maybe it was just not important to them the way it was to me, which is perfectly fine of course. Now looking back, I must say I am a much better person now, in my own standards. My life is more thrilling now – kind of living your dream. Is that not a good thing? RJ gave me choice and the ability to get the girls that for years I couldn’t be with. He revolutionized the way male-female interaction works. Mark my words this is the future. This is like inventing the gun or the knife. You can do good or bad things with them – up to you. So it comes down to exercising your free will. Welcome to reality. Are there some people who use this material with ill will? I bet there are. But they are not murderers or rapists. This is life, take it or leave it. Regarding those remarks about RJ’s personal life: Why should it be important whether you like him or approve of him or not? It’s your own opinion, don’t forget this. PS1. For you ladies who find this wrong, for whatever reason, I have a free advice. Own your own mind, own your own reality and there is nothing to fear, no? So why the big deal? On the other hand, if you cannot control your own mind and intellectualize about somebody using some “techniques”, then I urge you to take more responsibility for your own lives.

    1. I posted a comment on May 3 and now May 21 it is still awaiting moderation??? What kind of screening process is that?

  2. lets just keep things plain and simple here shall we. We all have ONE life on this earth and WE as individuals have a CHOICE what to do with it. . . if Ross CHOOSES to do something or behave a certain way in HIS life then good for him hes truly expressing himself and for me i know that is the way to live. To TRULY EXPRESS ones self is the key to living in my opinion and not giving a crap to how others perceive you to be. We don’t have the right to judge and call him this or that. I know making this site was to help people become more aware of whats really going on but in saying that at the end of the day it all comes down to CHOICE and what people want to do with this knowledge. If you told someone else “hey watch out for this person, he/she doesn’t behave the way I like people to behave” just because that’s the way he/she WANTS to TRULY EXPRESS them self then somethings up with that buddy ? so when it comes down to it we only live once so i say do whatever you want with it and not let others dictate how we should EXPRESS ourselves just because someone else feels these feelings or those feelings towards that person. haha JUST DO YOU not someone else its that simple lol.

    1. lets just keep things plain and simple here shall we. We all have ONE life on this earth and WE as individuals have a CHOICE what to do with it. . . if Ross CHOOSES to do something or behave a certain way in HIS life then good for him hes truly expressing himself and for me i know that is the way to live.

      In other words, be selfish, insensitive, be unsympathetic to others. All traits RJ has demonstrated with skill.

      To TRULY EXPRESS ones self is the key to living in my opinion and not giving a crap to how others perceive you to be.

      This doesn’t excuse or justify his rotten attitude towards others.

      We don’t have the right to judge and call him this or that.

      Yes we do. Even if people didn’t, they would anyway.

      I know making this site was to help people become more aware of whats really going on but in saying that at the end of the day it all comes down to CHOICE and what people want to do with this knowledge. If you told someone else “hey watch out for this person, he/she doesn’t behave the way I like people to behave” just because that’s the way he/she WANTS to TRULY EXPRESS them self then somethings up with that buddy ? so when it comes down to it we only live once so i say do whatever you want with it and not let others dictate how we should EXPRESS ourselves just because someone else feels these feelings or those feelings towards that person. haha JUST DO YOU not someone else its that simple lol.

      …if that floats your boat.

  3. This website is hilarious? What exactly are you exposing? Bad personality traits?

    Are you serious? So you think the guy is egotistical? From looking at his work he never comes off that way with his students and seems to be genuinely interested in helping others but is smart enough to get paid for doing it. I mean, he is a JEW.

    I don’t really understand the purpose of this site other than to agree with the creators assertion that Ross Jeffries is a meany and he gives men just as much control in being manipulative as women when it comes to relationships. Boo hoo.

    1. This website is hilarious? What exactly are you exposing? Bad personality traits?

      Among other things, yes. Read the About page. Not going to repeat things here.

      Are you serious? So you think the guy is egotistical? From looking at his work he never comes off that way with his students and seems to be genuinely interested in helping others but is smart enough to get paid for doing it. I mean, he is a JEW.

      You must be new to the Ross crowd. And him being a Jew or not has nothing to do with it.

      I don’t really understand the purpose of this site other than to agree with the creators assertion that Ross Jeffries is a meany and he gives men just as much control in being manipulative as women when it comes to relationships. Boo hoo.

      Um, no, that would be a strawman fallacy. Never said his technology didn’t work (and that isn’t up for discussion here… read the fucking About page).

  4. ha…cant believe this silly site is still up. ross has obviously done more for seduction than anyone else out there, otherwise this ridiculous site wouldnt still be here…lol. because, the truth is, if what he teaches is effective (and it is) then it does not matter one bit what his attitude is like, or whether he is a nice person, or anything else…period. all of those things are completely irrelevant….and of course, I have no way of knowing if his attitude sucks…but I am smart enough to it just doesnt matter…at all. It wouldnt matter one bit to me if ross is a complete asshole…why would it? In fact, the only thing that matters is that ross has created something that is brilliant, something that truly empowers men…ablolutely…In fact, that is the ONLY thing that matters….!!!!!!!

    1. Ross has contributed in good ways and bad ways. The bad overshadows the good.

      You have no way of knowing? Then how can you make an accurate judgment? Ross created something good and spoiled it with his misanthropic attitude.

  5. WOW!

    Lots of Ross Jeffries haters here!!! Or lots of gays???

    His materials work! He was the first to apply technology to
    the so called “art” of seduction and turned it into a science.
    And it works real well!

    Who are the winnies, spineless wimpy “guys” here who
    are so worried about how evil and etc., etc., he is????

    It looks as if you guys got a crush on him, he didn’t give
    you the time of day and you feel SOOOO rejected and
    heart-broken!!!!!!And, it may just be that all of you, with a
    COUPLE of exceptions, are a bunch of losers who can’t get
    ANY girl, not even the ugly ones!l Maybe you are all GAYS!!!

    Follow this advice: learn about the technology he teaches, master it
    and apply it to get “babes” instead of wasting time in such useless,
    ridiculous whining. moaning, complaining and masturbation!

    To all of you moaning and crying here…. stop this mental
    masturbation and learn how to get girls, real girls.

    The goal is to get girls — unless you are all “gays’” !!!

    What do you think god created girls for”? To be screwed
    real good, to give us men, REAL men, pleasure!!!!!!
    Other than that (and to make babies), they have very little use
    whatsoever! James Bond made one stupid mistake
    when he married Tracy in ‘On her Majesty’s Secret Service.”
    Fortunately, she was killed, he learned his lesson and never again
    repeated that stupid mistake!!!

    James Bond would eagerly learn all the ins and outs of
    speed seduction to get even better at getting the chicks
    and won’t waste one second worrying about the idiotic
    things you are talking about. James Bond is goal
    oriented and so is speed seduction — whether you like
    Ross Jeffries or not.

    So, stop hating and start learning how to get girls.
    Or, do the best you can to stop being GAYS!

  6. just the act of setting up this website really shows some serious insecurities…and fears…one person even said that he coudnt be silent while ross jeffries abuses people…I agree, and would add that only a complete idiot would even make a statement like that. like were really supposed to believe that the motivation for this site is to expose ross’ bad attitude and abusive behavior. anyone with even a junior high understanding of psychology could see right through that….so true…so true…

    1. Only a “complete idiot” would stand by and let others abuse them.

      What you believe about this site is irrelevant. The purpose for this site is spelled out on the About page.

    1. His stuff working for you isn’t the point of this site. No debate on if/how/when SS works or not. Post that on any one of the dozens of forums on PUA out there.

      As for why people hate him – look at his behavior and how he treats others. Look at the unending double-standards put forth by the guy. Look at his general attitude mired in egoistic pursuit.

      He’s a narcissist. Nobody is perfect and I don’t hate him at all, but I won’t stand by and stay silent as he tears down others to make himself feel better.

  7. what a bunch of whining on here. if what ross teaches were not effective, we would not even have silly websites like this…fact! and these people on here talkng about how they dont like his attitude or whatever…so what! who cares! the fact still remains that ross’s speed seduction system in an incredible technology…I mean, he has completely flipped the old model of dating around…with speed seduction, men now have choice…we no longer have to settle for some chic who just happens to accidently be attracted to us…we can create that attraction at will….hmmmm. when you think about it like that, makes this whole site look kinda silly…I mean, think about it, with speed seduction, a whole new world of possibilities becomes available to us…and what could be more important than that. if these same people were to spend one tenth on the time applying speed seduction principals as they do in whining, they would not even have the time for all this sillyness cause they would be to busy banging hot chics…..!

    1. This is not a website that contests the effectiveness of Speed Seduction or any of Ross’s techniques for getting with women. If you want to debate that, go to a PUA forum. There are dozens of them out there.

      This website is an expose on his hypocritical, abusive and destructive behavior, backed annotation.

      Please read the guidelines and rules on this site. No debate on the effectiveness of his technology will be allowed.

      1. if you don’t abide by my rules and do as i say then you can’t post here…..

        exactly what jeffries is being accused of.

        hmmm.

    2. Either Paul posts here himself, pays people to do it.
      or Worse he could have conditioned his students to immediately begin defending him whenever they hear or see someone or something criticizing anything about Paul, SpeedSeduction, or Jeffrie’s techinique and questionable ethics.

  8. I’ve watched one or two of Ross Jeffries videos, and to be honest I find his attitude sucks. The guy’s ego is just so inflated that I personally can justify how on earth he can teach dating techniques and hypnotherapy. I have studied NLP and hypnosis techniques and one think I always followed was that if you use these techniques, it must be used with the greatest level of integrity and honesty. At the end of the day you are effecting someone subconscious mind, He has no right to use women and manipulate them in that way. I believe the best way to use dating techniques is to empower women, rather than use them as a means to lower their self esteem.

  9. I am glad I found this website. I have bought a couple of Ross’s items off ebay, for real cheap, and and two videos from his own website. I wasn’t sure what to think of him. I am glad to hear some first hand accounts of how he acts in real life situations, from people who know him. I had my suspicions from watching some of his videos from the workshops he conducts.

    The first thing that struck me was that his products are not very professionally packaged. Some of the other things are he has some very weird behavioral quirks in his videos. Even in the short snippets in his workshops he shows glimpses of extreme inpatients. Getting annoyed with people in his audience or the people running the camera or otherwise. He is also extremely “A.D.D”. For example he says something like, there are seven things you need to know about “xyz”. Then he only gives you two and he is off to a new subject. He also has long awkward pauses where it seems like he is thinking about something far off and then he comes back to earth and he moves on. At times he doesn’t seem sane to me but sometimes I just want to write it off as being a little eccentric.

    Some of the stuff he says does seem to make sense, and if you’re a semi afc like myself( I do ok with women, but not as good as I would like) you want to believe it. Not sure how honest the whole PUA community is. Quite honestly they all seem like used car salesmen. If you read “Influence”, which is one of the recommended readings from some PUA gurus, you will notice a lot of the PUAs using the techniques from this book to sell you there cheesy wares on their websites. It’s a bit transparent. This tells me that the product does not sell itself on its own merits but they have to resort to sleazy sales techniques to move their products. Ross seems to be right there in the middle of this ilk. I really have to wonder if he has a conscience at all. But then he says stuff like, we have to treat women well when they are with us. It seems a little inconsistent.

  10. Amy… let me get this straight. You are still with your bf but you say “the respect is gone forever”? Ya it sounds like the respect is gone…. your self respect. Why don’t you move on. RJ even admits it himself. He says the material is neutral and it can be misused by people. I agree with this. If you have good intentions and use it to attract someone you’re truly attracted to, then great. If you misuse it, Karma will catch up with you… In the end: Amy, DUMP THIS LOSER!! LOL!

  11. I have been studying ross’ materials for a few years now and think that they are amazing! he actually teaches a way to use language to trigger the fantasy circuts of the mind…to actually direct the thinking of the woman in such a way, that she realizes on her own, that she has to find out more about you…he understands that things like attraction, desire, intrigue, ect, are really just internal processes that can be triggered and evoked through correct use of language! this is a major breakthrough in human communication. the old idea that we have to impress a woman, or win her favor is out! the old model of just flapping are lips hoping that a woman will begin to feel desire for us is out! this is something new…and exciting…
    and whatever personal issues ross may have are irrelevant. who cares. the real issue is: do his techniques work? oh yes!!!

  12. I hate to say it but women are the biggest seducers out there. It is build into their DNA to be manipulative and controlling to be able to pass on their DNA. RJ is the best, even though he may be controversial from time to time. He has a well rounded approach to helping me to become great men and to get out of the stereo typical mode of pussy whipped which most men are. Scared and living in a world of lack of abundance in the area of women. My wife thing the work of RJ is a wonderful thing because it allowed her the opportunity to be with me and have a wonderful loving family!

    Thanks again RJ your the best!

    1. D-MAN. What part of “3) Discussion of Paul Ross’s products or their effectiveness or non-effectiveness” did you not read?

      If your wife is happy with you, and you know how to treat her with love and kindness, more power to you. Maybe you could offer RJ a course. He certainly needs it. Paul Ross does not exactly have the “best standing” with his former girlfriends. In fact, most of them will tell you that he is mentally unbalanced, manipulative, sadistic and takes an active pleasure in seeing them hurt. Several of the girls he has “seduced” have ended up in need of serious therapy. The ones that will not tell you that, only keep their mouths shut, because he has managed to scare and bully them into submission or he pays them to keep schtumm. I know this for a fact. Why do you think Paul Ross prefers to date really young girls, fresh out of college and preferably from foreign countries?

      A) easy targets
      B) do not have the resources to sue him for inflicting emotional trauma

      The sad reality is, that eventhough his “technology” has helped a lot of men, fact remains that Paul Ross himself is not able to help himself. He refuses to get therapy for his mental disorders, but relies on his “master” Shinzen Young. Who is not a psychiatrist. That is why, at the age of 50 he is still single, has never had a serious LTR with any woman, and nobody in their right minds believes that is a choice he has made by himself. When Paul Ross bashed David D for getting married to Annie, only the dumbest of the dumb did not recognize that as severe case of sour grapes. His last actual relationship broke only weeks prior to that. You do the math.

      But why dont you ask Paul Ross himself? Ask him how many of his former lovers and girlfriends would be willing to stand up for him in public and tell everybody what a wonderful human being he is?

      I dare him to find even one.

      1. Hey NG – sounds like you know or knew Ross personally. You write with insight. Do you know him/met him in person or otherwise?

        And yes, agreed on the whole David D thing. I wrote a whole article about it here. Check it out.

        Thumbs up!

  13. Where can I find out more about his secret work with the US Government?

    Ross and one of his students brainwashed me in a coffee shop in 2007. They took control of my life, abused me, while isolating me from my friends and family for years. I suffered in ways most people could not even imagine, (like an Mk-ultra experiment?) thanks to Paul Ross, he should be in prison. His behavior is sick, sadistic, surely a sociopath. Only look up to this man if you support things like rape, slavery, torture.

      1. A bit of googling reveals what could be a “trip report” of this person being “brainwashed” in a cafe by RJ. It’s since been taken down, but partly cached by Google.

        The first result is this page, and the second result is from a girl claiming to have been brainwashed in a coffee shop by RJ and someone else. It’s since been taken down, but some of it has been cached. Maybe internet detectives could find the whole article. Wayback machine maybe?

        https://encrypted.google.com/search?client=ubuntu&channel=fs&q=So+I+met+with+this+Paul+guy+in+the+coffee+shop..+and+I+got+brainwashed+by+him+and+Ross+Jeffries+%28&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&gl=uk

  14. As a female, I have zero respect for anyone who would wish to covertly seduce some poor woman to drop her drawers for their selfish needs. I don’t criticize Ross, but I do hold contempt for his coniving followers. These men are fooling themselves into thinking they have confidence, but as the saying goes, ‘fake it till you make it’, or so I’ve been told. But Ross has an interdependent relationship with them in that he supplies them with a shred of hope that they can have any woman they want, only to go to the next one or bring some STD to their loving girlfriend in the process. I found Ross’ guide in my home one evening. My b/f printed it out and told me it was just study material for him to be a better hyptonist. Like I said, I have zero respect for fools who follow Ross, my b/f included. I recognize that nothing lasts forever in this world. I forgave him, but the respect is gone forever after that discovery. Later on, I discovered his affair. I am still with him and have declined his proposal to marry. I hope he carries his knowledge & experience he attained from Ross into his future, he’ll need it and yes, I have learned in a round about wag to never trust anyone ever again! Thanks!

    1. As a male I have zero respect for anyone who wish to covertly seduce some poor nice guy to ditch him right afterwards for her selfish needs… Nice try on putting yourself on the poor womans shoes who gets seduced by these nasty men now in order to understand the whole story however how about trying to put yourself into the poor nice guys shoes who just wants to have an affair with the girl that he realy likes but he gets dumped to the trash bin because he’s a nice guy and they’d better be friends because he’s not mister perfect with the looks of movie celebrities and the luxurious life of some golden boy… Good luck on finding the man fo your dreams princess

  15. Every time anyone from puahate leaves a comment on RJ’s puafraud site, RJ immediately edits the comment or deletes it. He won’t let anyone leave comments that expose scams performed by his buddies, like neil strauss. Honestly, I think the dude has schizophrenia. I think RJ will be the next person to “go gunwitch” and shoot someone.

  16. Ross has always enjoyed being controversial..from talking down talk show host in the 90s to laying down the smack to his competition. Ross Has been proud that his he isn’t afraid to get tongue and cheek with a few people that rub him the wrong way. And you know what its fantastic! Seeming to take a Key from Richard Bandler him self Ross always introduces his curde humor as leverage in any situation. Those who are offended shouldn’t be in the highly controversial Seduction Industry as it is. You have to develop think skin to make it out here and Ross has demonstrated nothing but the best in this quality.

    As for his work, It stands alone. From turning AFCs into Mass seduction machines to his secret work with the US Government, Rosses work is legendary where ever it goes. As a Hypnotherapist myself his work is nothing less then some of the most brillant work in human potential and change of our Generati0n.

    1. controversial is one thing. Hypocrisy is another. “mass seduction machines”, yeah. Turning nice guys into robots. Good metaphor. Ross never did any secret work with the US Government. In his dreams maybe. That is a story he likes to spread. Like most of his other stories it is a blatant lie. Sociopaths do that a lot.

  17. Ross is an embarrassment.

    But it’s not really his fault. He has deep psychological issues that have stemmed from his childhood abuse. He really doesn’t like talking about it, but I know what happened.

    It’s a shame, too, because we used to be such good “friends.”

    It’s a shame he hates women (and men) so much.

    I pray for him regularly.

  18. Yikes! Had never heard of the cancerous balls thing. Pretty sick, in more ways than one. Sorry about your wife. I don’t know if his teachings contributed to the physical manifestation, but it wouldn’t surprise me if it could be proven! Hope your wife turns out OK.

  19. I don’t want to be the one to say that you are absolutely silly…that you have energetically gave your wife cancerous cysts due to ross Jeffries materials. on the other hand…if you believe that, then you will a lot of things…lol. but yeah, absolutely ridiculous!

  20. I am sorry to hear about your wife’s health problems. Honestly.

    I know well the RJ material and haven’t heard of this. For sure this is not in his post year 2000 teachings.

    You overextend your area of influence this is how I see it. See some very stuck patterns in your post. You speak with full certainty about things that are unclear yet or I would say partially clear. People were sure Columbus will sail off the edge of the world. Now we have google maps.

    Instead of searching for the cause for your wife’s problems in RJ, don’t you think there is something else that is very tangible and very real that you can do to help? Focus on the love you feel for her (you can feel it right?) then let this be the center of all your interactions with her and show her with your actions you are there for her. This is what you can do right here and right now and will help for sure – healing with love. What you are suggesting is speculation that ony damages and does not help. You are suspicious of a virus in your subcounscious instead of doing what you consciously can that will help for sure.

  21. I have emailed you three times requesting you remove my post and this is now the fourth time. You do not have my permission
    to post this. Please remove the post now. I now for a fact the email address I supplied you is invalid, so your responsibility to have the post is without integrity. This is the fourth time I have requested you to remove the post. Please take it down now.

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